Graduation

It's graduation days. What should I do next? 

Sadness

Last month, my grandmother was pass away. My grandmother pass away due to disease and hard to breath during the night. I wondering what you guys feel that time if the closes relative, friends, and family pass away. Frankly say, at that time I was hard to believe it. I barely say anytime that time and I just look at my grandmother corpse and don't know what else I can say.

A lot of things come to my mind and that time I still naive that feeling like my grandmother is asleep only and everything will be okay by tomorrow. I know well that this is one of the escapism behavior.At that time, I saw a lot of things, my relative's behavior especially my niece and the youngster.  Some of them are crying but most of them, are just feel nothings and playing around. I not sure about it, perhaps they are less interact with grandmother and less come back home visiting her so less emotional compare to us. 

I had take some time to recover from this emotional feeling. Every time I will unintentionally take out my phone and called my grandmother and I know that it was impossible. It just the behavior can't change. I believe my grandmother will be happy in heaven and will have a lot of friends also at there.

BOMBER MAN!!!!

Today we are going to talk about something that is not so serious. Do you guys still remember what is the game you guys play when children time? 

Previously, I accidentally found back one of the video game that store inside my computer. The game was Bomber Man !! I straight playing that video game once I found it. Quite a nice game though. I not sure about nowadays what kind of game available in the market because I getting seldom in playing video game. The latest game I ever play I can think of is Left for Dead. That one is also a great game, however, this bomber man still can bring back a lot of my childhood memory especially the screaming of my brother when I "boom" him in the game. 

The graphic of the game although not that advance compare to the video game nowadays, but I believe that the game is still that interesting and easiest ways for me to spend my leisure time. 

Birthday

"Happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you~" 

When your birthday coming, what first come to your mind?

Celebration, gifts, cake, party, wishes. Birthday was the most wonderful day in our life. It celebrate the day we born. The day we have a new life. The day we have the family. The day that we have our own name. The day that our mother suffering. 

In ancient Chinese society, they are more likely consider the birthday was the day that the mother suffering.  Mother had pregnant and conceived us for 10 months. During that time, their body was under the great pain no matter physically or psychologically. This kind of feeling become worst when the child are going to born. In Chinese, they believe that when the mother born the baby, it consider that they have stand in front of the door of hell, whether alive, or death. This is true statement where some mother was actually death after born the baby. Without our mother fighting in the surgery room, having the both strong physically and psychological mental, we are not able to bring to this world. That is why the day where we are born, is the day that our mother suffering. Mother are willing to do anythings for us,protecting us, teaching us, give us all her best. But, what have we give them? 

Unfortunately, children nowadays do not realize about this matter. When their birthday, they always tend to ask too much. They request everything they want, a good birthday party, a dream prize and so on. They are king and queen when birthday. Every inch of their needs must be fulfill and must over their expectation if possible. They have forget the story behind when they are born, how suffer their mother bring them to life, how much suffer that facing during that 10 months. They will never know until they are become other's mother. 

So when your birthday, please give a big hug to your mother. Say thanks to them but not asking from them. And say: " Mother, I love you, thanks you for bringing me to this world."

50 Things I Have My Mother to Thank For

Expect nothing

I believe that everyone have things that they expected in their life. No matter who. Baby, they expect have love and care so do the children. They expect have people give presents, foods, and toys to them especially during their birthday and Christmas. It's pretty simply needs isn't? 

Let's go deeper. When we grow up, the desire also grow and so do the needs. We expect high performance, high exam result, high quality of school, have a lot of good friends, they willing to help us and follow what we hope so, we expect achieve in others do not achieve. So, is this a good phenomenon? I would like to say both good and bad. Because people desire, we tend to achieve, we tend to discover more. Without discover, what would our world to be? As advance as now? However, compare to last time, people nowadays tend to be expected more and desire more which lead to the bad outcome. 

When open newspaper, how many student are commit suicide due to the bad performance? How many employees and employers are getting more tension everyday and had psychology problem and depress everyday? How many people are can't accept the reality and "escape" from life? We also heard people say that so disappointing on others, disappointing in something. But, what to say we change our mindset?

Try to think like this: Every outcome is a gift from God. If the result is bad, just let it be, perhaps this is the challenging that you must overcome in order to get stronger. We are not born to know everything isn't? We accumulate our knowledge and experience so that wouldn't repeat it in the future. There is nothings to be depress about. We expect too much things in our life. So why don't we give it a break? We no need to live so tension. If have problem, we solve it, if we not able to solve it, we try to get help from other, as we have try out best, there is nothing we can regret about. The most sadness case is that the student are easily commit suicide because of poor result. Your life is not that cheap and how about your parents? They had spend their whole life in raise you up and this is the things you pay back for them? We fail today do not mean that we fail everyday. Try you best, expect nothing and you will not be dissapointed. 

Prove them wrong

You can't do this! This is out of your limit! You are not one of them! You will just hurting yourself! You are wasting your time! Just stick to the plan! 

Is that always what we heard around us? In life, there are many haters, passion and dreams killers. There will keep on telling you what you can do and what you can't do. You like to draw mural, your parents force you to play piano. You like to play basketball, your friend tell you that you are too short that capable for this sport. You try to learn new music instrument, they tease you. All of this will drag us out of our path to success.

Friends, family, it so hard to tell but it was true. They are your dream killers, they are your passion killers especially your close friends. In school, in university, in workplace, even in family, your brother and sister, they hope to shape you to what they want to. They want you to be same like them. They are the first person that you talk to about your dreams, if lucky enough, they will motivate you and supporting you. Unfortunately, in most cases, especially friends, they stopped you. They warn you, they frighten you. You might be frighten out, you might be stop what you hope to do. Than you are wrong, you are just one of them.

Prove them wrong! Prove them you are the special one. You are able to see things that they cannot see and you can exceed their expectation. Jack Ma, the founder of Alibaba, he said before: " If you don’t give up, you still have a chance. Giving up is the greatest failure." Think again, is that worth that you give up your dreams just based on that few sentences that spoke by those people? You might be the next Michael Jordan, you might be the next Taylor Swift, you might be the next Beethoven! You could be anyone! Prove to them! Prove them wrong! Prove you can shape your own life! 

7 Practical Lessons to Stay Committed to Your Dreams (Stop Thinking, Start Doing)

What is belong to you?

What is the things you have and belong to you in life?

Try to think back what exactly is belong to us? The cloth we had in the wardrobe? The money inside our bank? The business that we had create? No, neither one are belong to us. Since we are born, we are bring nothing along with us and we are just naked. Have you ever see a baby that is bringing along the jewelry or so on when they are born? I believe if there is such things, the population of earth must be increase rapidly since everyone is rushing to have a baby. Yes, everything is start give by our parents and relatives. 

When we are grow, we start to fight, we learn to fight. We stand alone, we work together. We laugh, we feel sadness, we feel angry, we feel happiness, we feel everything. We fight to get good result in childhood, learn as many things we can. We compare with other, we defeat other, we get good result and enter good university, we getting the course we want, we spent whole night doing assignment, we study, we exam, we achieve and we graduate. It not yet done. We keep on. We get the certificate, we went to work, we get married, we have our own child, we get good performance in work, we get promotion, we get higher paid, we get a better life, better house, or no, you not getting promotion but a lot of loan need to settle, housing loan, car loan, education loan, living life expanses. The life remain on you is work work work work and work. To settle down all the loan, to get a better life for your family. Stress is coming everyday. Finally, you have settle down all, and you getting older. You body start to have various type of problem. You used up all the money that you earn while young and cure yourself. The worst situation? You don't have money and cure yourself because you have spend all of it for you family. So, you are sick heavily, and sorry to say that, you were done. The coffin is waiting for you and the grim reaper is waiting to reap your soul if too many bad things you have done or no, you are going to heaven and welcoming by God. See? Your whole life can be just in one paragraph. So, what left behind? What still remain? What you can bring to heaven? You saw your family and friends cried, but after 3 years, do still remember you? Do still they cry for you?

So, this is life. Think positive. Life just once and do not have repeat. So, LIVE YOUR LIFE.

Your time is limit

How many time do you left? This question I am believe that just a few of people will realize until they are truly found that they are lack of time especially youngster. 

We can always see that youngster nowadays waste a lot of time in surfing Facebook, gaming especially mobile apps. I am not to deny the benefit that technology bring to us but I wish to emphasis that youngster nowadays really lack of concern on the time issues. Some time we even can heard some of them say: "I do not know what to do now, I have nothing to do. I so boring." But, they do not know that they are actually wasting their time. God is fair. He give everyone 24 hours a day, but why some can success in life while other cannot? Why some people say that they so free, but some say that they do not have enough time to use? 

Previously, I found a very interesting video about we draw our life on a A4 paper. The video I had show at below and can have a look. After seeing this, it give me a great impact on my perspective on time. For example, we now are 30, we still have time to fight on our career. However, if your whole life just have 60, you have spent up half of your life. How about your parents? How many time they left? Better yet, think about your primary school, secondary school, isn't that time flies? How old are you now? So how about our parent?  I am believe that it is very hard to make a balance between family and career, however, I still hope that everyone of us at least can spend some time to go home and pay a visit to our parents. Perhaps, they ain't got much time left. Sick or an accident can bring them away anytime and anywhere. 

Regret

Allow me asking a serious questions: "If you die today, what left behind you? Dreams, abilities, gift, family, friends?"

Have we ever think about this? I had never think this issues before, I always think that I am still young, still capability, still have a lot of time to do anythings. I do believe that everyone will think the same things. However, let's us ask ourselves, if one day, we being diagnose that you have a disease, a cancer, that can cause you death. Unfortunately, you have left few more years, fewer perhaps. What will run in your mind now? Thinking of I speaking nonsense? No, accident and danger will always come silently and unexpectedly. You think you might have start your journey, but maybe it was your last things can do in life.

Previously, I found an interesting article in web that story background is by a millionaire. He said that he had bring his family one time before to let them see how the cremation service is running. Everyone was shock and scold him that had give his children bad memory in childhood. However, the millionaire had say something and make the crowd keep in silent. He said:" I bring them to see the cremation service is to let them know what is death. When the button is press, everyone is the same. No matter who you are and how rich you are. Once you had dead and send to the cremation service, everything left behind is just the bone ash. This reason behind all this is I want to let my children understanding it."

Maybe that millionaire is too aggressive and using inappropriate method to teach his son, however, it bring up a very good issue. Once we die, who we are? We are just a bone ash or corpse that lying under the grave yard and watching our family, friends or even no one that pass by our grave.

When this coming, what is the most things that you have regret in your entire life? We might have things that we regret and never do, or we do not dare to do. Tell the one we love, appreciate the time with our family, say sorry to others, I am sure that there must be a lot of things that we wish to do if we really been declare that our life is almost come to the end.

How long we are not hugging our parents and say I love you? How long we forget to love ourselves? How long we forget what dream we are chasing for?

We not in grave yard yet ! Stop regret everything before too late! We should appreciate every moment ! To not live in other's life ! To do things that we like to do! Everyday is a new day and everyday is a new moment ! So what is the most regret things in your life?

The 25 Biggest Regrets In Life. What Are Yours?


 

Life

Play together with the music sound will be nicer.

Previously, I was surfing on YouTube and found a very interesting and motivating video. I believe it can benefit and inspire anyone especially those who in stress and trouble. 

"Your time is limited so don’t waste it living someone else’s life." This is the phrase that I like most in the video. When speak about time is limited, I wondering how many people is actually can realize on it. I start to thinking back myself when the video talk about stop living with the results of other people's thinking. I think it was true thought. Friend, parents, relative and all people around us. That is what they make us but not based on our willingness especially friends. 

Best friend, this word will jump into my mind when talk about wasting time. How many times we are wasting on our so called "best friend"? Are we living on the script that they set on us? Or actually we are willing to let them set on us? For sure not. However, sometimes, we are forced to. We need to obey and follow what they ask to. If one day we fail to do so, they will definitely say disappoint on us and shame on us. But, let us think back, is this called "best friend" or we are slave?

In Chinese, there is a phrase that always like to told by old people. No matter how many good things you have done, but don't ever let them see you do a bad things once, sooner, they will forget all the goodness you done to them. Obviously, this is definitely correct. How many argument and quarrel is started by small matter and we forget other's goodness to us? The so called "best friend", if one day we are not following their script, we are not their "best friend" anymore.

This post suppose with the title of "Friendship" instead of "Life" but why I choose "Life" rather than "Friendship"? 

Perhaps, this is so called "Life". We will never stop. We keep going and keep moving. I still remember that someone had said that life is like we ride on a train. Along the journey, there are people leave the train and people that get up to the train and so do friends, nothing is static, it is keep moving. In different stage we will have different friends with us. Now think back, how long we not talk to our primary school's best friends? Closer a bit, how long we not talk to our secondary school's best friends? More closer a bit, how long we not talk to our University's best friends? It's a questions to ask. When think back, when around our "best friends", are we still need to follow their script? Or in other way round, tolerate. So, I think it was good fortune enough to have at least one best friend in our life that will keep pushing us, keep fighting together with us, cheer you up when you are in bad mood, celebrate when we are happy, share our deepest secret and tolerate each other. Luckily, I had found it. 

21 SIGNS SHE'S YOUR BEST FRIEND FOR LIFE